To be honest, I've spent the past couple of months blissfully trying to ignore everything health-related that's been going on so we could focus on the baby, and it's been quite nice. That horrible dark cloud of dread has come over me every time someone has asked about treatment, but I know it's totally unrealistic to not think or talk about it, and that we're really lucky to have so many people around us who care. It's never been far from my mind, however much I've tried to ignore it recently.
I also feel guilty for trying to forget about it for a while - I always preach about how we need to talk more about bowel cancer to raise awareness and make sure people know what to look for and how important it is to discuss, so I'm disappointed in myself for not practicing that recently.
Steve's illness came up in conversation with one of the midwives during my pregnancy when I was admitted to hospital with a virus. She was putting a cannula into my hand to give me some fluids as I was severely dehydrated and Steve casually mentioned how strange it was to watch, considering I'd never had a cannula before and he'd had plenty. Obviously, this led the midwife to question why he'd had so many and we ended up discussing his entire story from the beginning until now (which we are absolutely fine with and don't mind discussing it at all - again, the more people who know, the better). The look of shock, horror, sympathy and utter confusion on her face as we spoke reminded us how abnormal our situation appears to be. It's become our "normal" and we are used to living with it on a daily basis, and we very quickly forget what a shock it is to others who may not have experienced something like this before.
We were discussing this over lunch recently when Steve was on paternity leave. What is so unusual about the position we are in? If ever it comes up in conversation with a total stranger, they are shocked and interested to know all about it. There have even been occasions where we've met friends of friends for the first time, and as soon as either of us introduces ourselves, the person knows all about us and has lots of questions. Why? Everybody wants to know everything... How old is he? He looks far too young to have cancer... Does it run in the family? It seems so odd that this has happened to someone of his age... How was he diagnosed? Most people don't know the symptoms...
The sad thing about it is, it's not unusual at all. Cancer affects 1 in 3 of us, and although most of them are around the age you might expect cancer to become apparent, a lot of them aren't. Steve was 30 when he was diagnosed, and he isn't the youngest person I know who's had cancer.
It's easy to sometimes fall into a self-pitying state of mind and wonder, why us? But really, why not? Cancer is sadly so common now and we never stay self-pitying for long - we make sure to remind each other that we are so, so fortunate Steve is okay and even though we're still very much in the battle, we are grateful that his cancer was caught early enough that all of the treatment he's had so far has even been an option to try.
Medical advances are happening all the time but prevention is ALWAYS better than cure. It's imperative that people are made aware of the signs and symptoms, and that they speak up to their GP... If you're not satisfied with their response, keep pushing, request to see a different GP, and do not stop until all of the appropriate screening has taken place. We're lucky that Steve was referred for the right testing immediately, but I know of far too many cases where people are considered "too young to get bowel cancer" and are sent away with no testing. This DOES happen to people of all ages, and I've seen far too many families torn apart because they've been misdiagnosed or not taken seriously. It might be slightly embarrassing but it's worth it, either for your peace of mind if it's nothing sinister, or for an early diagnosis so the relevant treatment can go ahead. Don't risk your health because you're embarrassed. It's absolutely not worth it.
A quick reminder of the signs and symptoms to look out for:
- Weight loss
- Weight gain
- Bleeding from bottom and/or when going to the toilet
- Pain or a lump in tummy
- Extreme tiredness
- A change in bowel habits
These symptoms may not mean cancer, but occasionally they do so it's always worth getting checked!
I hope anyone who comes across this and has any questions or comments will contact me - GinaParker21 on Twitter - I'm always interested to hear people's perspectives and will be as helpful as I can to anyone who needs it! :)
Lots of love always Xx
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